HIV dating sites and apps

Are there dating sites for people with HIV?

Yes, PositiveSingles is a site for people with STIs. Grindr and SCRUFF document an HIV field you can leave blank, and Hornet documents one you choose whether to show.

PositiveSingles tells a new member to Specify your STD status, such as herpes(HSV1, HSV2), HIV, HPV, hepatitis, or others. The herpes dating-sites guide makes the same kind of split for herpes. Where to meet people covers general apps, STI-specific sites, and support communities.

Which dating sites and apps work for people living with HIV?

Use PositiveSingles when you want an STI site that asks for a status. Grindr, SCRUFF, and Hornet are the mainstream apps with a documented HIV field.

Grindr’s help page lists HIV status, a last tested date, and testing reminders. If you want, Grindr can use your last tested date to send you periodic reminders to get retested. Grindr’s September 4, 2025 post says For the first time, you can now filter profiles by Health Practices. Grindr also says it never shares your health information with any advertisers or third-party services.

SCRUFF’s optional status choices are Negative, Positive, and Positive, Undetectable, among others. The first two are self-explanatory test results; Positive, Undetectable means the person is living with HIV, on medication as prescribed, with an undetectable viral load. SCRUFF encourages users who do choose to share those details to revisit these options periodically to make sure they accurately reflect their status, test dates, and sexual practices. We don’t allow users to filter search results by HIV status.

Hornet has one line for a negative test and another for a negative test paired with PrEP use. Two more lines cover a positive test, and a positive test with antiretroviral medication that results in an undetectable viral load. Your HIV status is only searchable by users who have defined themselves as HIV-positive. Other users can see a status you choose to show, and Hornet says it does not share that information with third parties unless the law requires it. On SCRUFF and on Hornet, that undetectable line is a status the member chooses to show.

Is there a free HIV dating app?

You can join PositiveSingles free. Starting a conversation takes a paid plan, from $29.95 for one month on the website, read September 21, 2026.

If the question is whether a free member can start a conversation, PositiveSingles’ own answer is No. Standard Members cannot start new conversations. However, you can reply to messages from a premium MEMBER at no additional cost. Messaging remains available as long as at least one person in the conversation has an active Premium membership.

A free membership can create a profile, search for people by country and state, and send free winks. The cost page has the renewal wording and the name on a card statement, and the free page lists what the unpaid account can do.

Can you date someone with HIV and not get it?

Yes. People with HIV who take HIV medicine and get and keep an undetectable viral load will not transmit HIV to their sex partners. The CDC says If you have an undetectable viral load, you will not transmit HIV to others through sex.

HIV.gov says This is sometimes called undetectable = untransmittable (U=U). In the studies it cites, no HIV transmissions were observed when the partner with HIV was virally suppressed. HIV.gov says that holds for vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Dating with HIV is the longer read on relationships.

If you are the partner without HIV, PrEP is medicine (pills or shots) that reduces your chance of getting HIV. PrEP reduces the risk of getting HIV from sex by about 99% when taken as prescribed. You must take PrEP as prescribed for it to work, and if you do not, there may not be enough medicine in your bloodstream to block the virus. Among people who inject drugs, PrEP reduces the risk by at least 74% when taken as prescribed.

The CDC also says PrEP reduces the chance of getting HIV but doesn’t prevent other STIs or pregnancy. Combining PrEP with condoms will reduce your risk of getting other STIs, HIV.gov says. The CDC says most condoms are highly effective against HIV and certain other STIs during sex and when sharing sex toys, and latex condoms are the best type for HIV prevention. Natural membrane condoms, such as lambskin, have small holes and should not be used to prevent HIV or other STIs.

This page is general information, not medical advice. Whether your viral load is undetectable is a result from your clinician, not a conclusion from this page.

Do you have to tell a partner you have HIV?

Whether or not you are required by law to share your HIV status depends on where you live, and this page is not legal advice. Many states have laws that require you to share your HIV status before you have sex (anal, vaginal, or oral) or before you share needles or other equipment to inject drugs.

It’s important to share your status with your current and past sexual partners and with anyone with whom you have shared needles or other equipment used for injecting drugs, HIV.gov says. You don’t have to tell everyone that you have HIV. Whether and how you tell others about your status is your decision.

In some states, you can be charged with a crime if you don’t tell your partner your HIV status, even if you used a condom or another type of protection and the partner does not become infected. Some states have laws that require you, your clinic, or your provider to tell your partner if you test positive for HIV.

If you ask a health department to notify partners for you, it does not reveal your name. It tells them only that they have been exposed to HIV and should get tested.

As of 2022, the CDC counted 35 states that criminalize actions taken by people with HIV through HIV- or STD-specific laws. It counted 10 states that require people with HIV who are aware of their status to disclose their status to sex partners. It counted 14 states that criminalize actions that have a negligible or low risk of transmitting HIV, such as spitting, biting, and oral sex.

Under existing laws in most states, actions taken by people with HIV can be criminalized for potentially exposing others to HIV, and actual transmission or intent to transmit is not usually required. Since 2014, at least 12 states have modernized or repealed their laws to bring them in line with current scientific evidence: California, Colorado, Georgia, Iowa, Michigan, Missouri, New Jersey, Nevada, North Carolina, Virginia, and Washington modernized theirs, and Illinois repealed its law. The CDC says states should consider updating or repealing outdated laws and practices. The duty depends on the state you live in, so check that state’s current law, or ask a lawyer, before you rely on this list.

How should you choose?

Choose based on whether you want a site built around STI status or a mainstream app where HIV is one optional field among others. On PositiveSingles you state a status when you sign up; on Grindr, SCRUFF, and Hornet, HIV status is an optional field, shown only if you choose to fill it in.

Join free and look at the country-and-state search. Pay only if someone there is worth a conversation.